Putting myself back in the picture: my really simple new year’s resolution
*UPDATE 1st January 2016.*
I wrote this post exactly a year ago. I am pleased to say I stuck to this resolution all year, and am renewing it for 2016, so now seems an appropriate time to re-share it.
Happy new year to you all – and thanks to everyone who has supported Cardiff Mummy Says over the last year. xx
*UPDATE 1st January 2017*
Two years on and this one is still going strong! xx
Like most people I know, every year I churn out the same new year’s resolutions – lose weight, get fitter, save more money, eat healthier, stop gossiping, blah, blah, blah, blah…
I do my best and then always end up feeling guilty when things fall by the wayside.
This year, however, I have a resolution that I hope will be easy peasy to keep. It’s very simple but I think it’s very important too.
I’m going to take more photos with grown-ups in them.
It sounds a bit stupid when I say it, but like most mums I know, I take a LOT of photos of my children, a lot of them with their cousins and their little friends. Occasionally I get someone to take a photo of the five of us as a family, but that’s about it.
I was putting together our annual photo calendar recently and looking through a year’s-worth of photos, it struck me how few there were of grown-ups and of me doing grown-up things. There was a couple on a night out with my girlfriends, a few big extended family group photos, a handful of me with my kids… and everything else was filled with children. There were several big events where it was like I wasn’t even there, or any grown-ups for that matter!
I’m not going to stop taking photos of my little ones, I’m just going to make sure the adults in my life feature in my photo albums too.
Not just for me, but for my children’s sake too. I have hardly any photos of me with my Grandma. Just two, I think. She died when I was 16 and I keep thinking how nice it would be to have more photos of me with her. I don’t want my children to one day think the same. I don’t especially like having my photo taken. I am guilty of deleting ones where I don’t like how I look. I’m sure in years to come, my children and even grandchildren won’t even notice the things I hate about myself in photos. Hopefully they’ll just laugh at how old-fashioned my clothes look and how young I used to be.
But for them to do that, the photos need to be there in the first place. Seeing how infrequently I appear in my photos from 2014, and how rare snaps of grown-ups are in general in my photo albums, I’m not going to make that mistake again.
Are you guilty of only taking photos of your children? Come join the discussion on my Facebook page or tweet me on @cardiffmummy
That is such a good resolution – my photos are either scenery or my daughter. I loathe having my own taken, and while I usually persuade my family/husband into a few now and then, that does mean there aren’t many records of my travels. And like you say, will I really be fretting about unflattering angles in 20 years when I’m looking back?
I used to be the same with holiday/travelling photos too – lots of gorgeous scenery but not so many with people in them. 2015 is definitely the year of the grown-up photo! X
I certainly am. Someone asked for a pic of me and all the kids – and I had ones from literally 12 months ago. I hate photos of myself but really want more to capture so I can look back in the future – and probably sob as how dinky they ever were x
I had the same thing trying to find a photo of me and the kids. I was shocked! Not too late to change though. I’m the same as you, finding it emotional at how little they all were. X
I definitely do this! Lots of photos of this kids. Virtually none of me! A very good resolution.
I was quite shocked by how easily it had happened. I’ve been doing really well since I made the resolution. Lots of photos of me and other grown ups now! x
I think I am increasingly reluctant to take pics with me in as it reminds me I am aging! Just took some selfies with the girls at the seafront and realised I have bags under my eyes and should probably consider Botox! Maybe I will just stick to pictures if the kids!
Awww, I know I am aging too. I can see my wrinkles in photos – but when you’re 80, your children and grandchildren will say wow, you used to look so young! I am doing it for them rather than me! x