Why I went out dressed the same as a five-year-old
I know I’m biased, but Little Miss E, my 5¾ year old daughter, is so incredibly cute sometimes. We went shopping last week – me and three children… a lot less stressful than you would imagine, actually – for new school coats, and I’d promised her a new party dress.
She picked this one in Marks & Spencer.
While I was busy inwardly celebrating after finding a half-price duffle coat for Little Man O, who turns four next week, she saw the dress from the other side of the store and ran across to it, shrieking with excitement.
Not just because it’s her favourite colour pink, but because “it looks just like your dress, Mummy.”
She means this one, which I bought back in May from the Yumi Concession in House of Fraser Cardiff and which I have definitely got my wear out of. I love it! (This photo was taken as part of a project I did with Wake Up To Organic hence the big fridge in the background!)
“We can wear them when we go out together, Mummy,” she told me excitedly, “then everyone will know you’re the mummy and I’m your daughter.”
I suggested various alternatives to her and told her it was okay if she didn’t look like me. But she was adamant. She wanted this one because it was just like my dress. And so we bought it.
The next day we had a big family get-together for my uncle’s birthday. I’d been planning on wearing jeans, heels and a smart top. But Miss E had other ideas. “Mummy, mummy mummy,” she said, her eyes lighting up as if it were Christmas. “We can both wear our pink dresses and we can look the same. Like twins!”
She was so excited about the whole idea, I didn’t have the heart to say no. Inwardly, I was worried what people would think about a mother turning up dressed the same as her daughter. Would they think I was a vain yummy mummy whose child is nothing more than a fashion accessory and a vanity project? Would they think we were some kind of modern-day Von Trapps, where the whole family heads out in matching outfits? Would people laugh at us?
But then I thought, why should I care what people I don’t know think? It’s a sad day indeed when a grown woman’s ego comes ahead of a young child’s pure innocence, delight and pride at wanting to do something fun and heart-warming.
She won’t always want to dress like me, I’m sure. In fact, when she’s a teenager, she’ll probably be embarrassed about my sense of dress. She’ll either be laughing at me for trying to look too young for my age or despairing at me for looking old and boring. Meanwhile, I’ll be chastising her for wearing clothes that are too revealing or too grown-up, knowing she’ll be rolling up her skirts as soon as I’m out of sight.
And so we headed off to the party and my extended family thought it was brilliant that we looked the same. We had to pose for lots of photos. Little Miss E had accompanied her dress with a green beaded Tinkerbell necklace and somehow got her hands on my sunglasses. My cousin said the accessories made her look like a mini Audrey Hepburn. Everyone told her she was a mini Mummy. As much as I want her to be her own person, she was delighted with this. Being the eldest of three, she and I get very little one-to-one time and this was such a lovely way for the two of us to bond.
I’d been feeling quite down about the way I look recently. My body is definitely showing the signs of three pregnancies within four years, and I still have half a stone of stubborn baby weight to shift. Little Miss E didn’t see any of that though. She was proud to look just like me – and I was proud to look just like her, too. A beautiful reminder of what it is to be loved unconditionally.
What would you have done? I’d love to hear your thoughts either in the comments section below, on the Cardiff Mummy Says Facebook page or you can tweet me on @cardiffmummy
I think it’s great that she wanted to dress like her mummy! I’d let my girls dress like me, although I wouldn’t look anywhere near as fashionable as you. It’d just be jeans and a cami top here!
Ha, most of my clothes are nowhere near as exciting as this dress! I am definitely a jeans girl! x
You both look lovely! My 7-yo daughter loves wearing matchy/similar clothes to me, though I sometimes get a bit embarrased. But you’re right, one day they will be embarrassed by us so it is better to enjoy these kinds of things.
I love that they live in a world where it doesn’t occur to them to worry about what other people think. It’ll be so sad when that all changes x
I think this is lovely! How cute that she was so excited to wear the same dress as you 🙂 xx
Thank you, glad you liked it. And yes, so cute. One of those moments to treasure x
Lovely post Cathryn. I think clothes and “looking like mummy” are a great way of bonding. Funnily enough I promised Caitlin she can try on some of my dresses only this morning. You both look lovely.
Yes, I think you’re right about it being a way of bonding. Now she is in school full-time, I see her less than her brothers, and I don’t get any real time just the two of us, so this was lovely. x
This is gorgeous. I love that she wanted to dress like you, and you both look lovely. I often end up matching Santi (sometimes accidentally, sometimes not) but he’ll be telling me off for it soon enough!
Haha, yes, at some point they won’t even want to be seen in our company so we definitely need to embrace it! x
Lovely dresses. I think embrace it while she wants to dress the same as when their teenagers they won’t even want to be seen with us let alone dress the same lol x
Exactly! That childhood innocence does not last for long. Definitely need to make the most of it x
Adorable 🙂 Definitely glad you made the choice to both wear the same in the end.
Ah, me too! A real moment to treasure x
Such a lovely post! This is definitely something my daughter would want to do too. I bet she’ll always remember the day she and her mummy wore matching dresses x
Aw, I hope she will remember it and look back on it as a treasured memory. It was really lovely dressing the same. I recommend it!! x
Aww that is such a sweet post. My daughter is such a girly girl, at 2 1/2 she calls me a princess if I wear a dress and insists on wearing dresses most of the time. Aren’t little girls just the cutest.
That’s so lovely she calls you a princess. Yep, little girls are so cute! Love my two boys too, but I do love all the girliness x
I think this is lovely. I would definitely let my girls do this if they asked. Gorgeous dresses xxx
It really was lovely. She was so excited about it. I must admit, I love my pink dress! I’ve worn it so much x
I think this is adorable and what a compliment that she wants to look like you!! I think you look amazing too 🙂
Aw, thank you. I love that childhood innocence, so sweet. A real moment to treasure x
Oh how cute! You should relish this – it will pass all too quickly. She won’t want to wear a dress of any description before you know it! Kaz x
Brilliant, my daughter loves to make me wear dresses and she’d be thrilled too if we had the same dresses!
Oh that is just absolutely adorable 🙂 and you definitely did the right thing. X
aw, haha, I loved this story 🙂 you guys look adorable together.
Ah, that’s so sweet. The photo is lovely! I think you made the right decision to go with it, they’re grown up and wanting to be completely different to you before you know it! #bigfatlinky
Aw, thanks for your lovely comment. Glad you would have done the same. Yes, you are right she will be grown up before I know it, so we ave to embrace these moments. x
That’s lovely. Jen loves to match me and Ted 🙂 Thanks for sharing this on #bigfatlinky
Oh what a lovely thing to do together and how lovely that your daughter wanted a dress just like yours and for the two of you to look like twins 🙂