How a random act of kindness turned my bad day around
Yesterday, someone went out of their way to hold a shop door open for me – and it made me cry.
For various reasons, I’d been having a really bad day. Just one of those days where it feels like the whole world is against you, even though nothing especially bad has happened.
It had been a real battle that morning getting everyone ready to leave the house for the school and Cylch (Welsh playgroup) run. No one would put their shoes or coats on, the kids were fighting with each other, and just as we were about to leave, already late, there was an explosive nappy to deal with and no clean clothes to be found.
Cardiff Daddy had been leaving early for work and working late all week, meaning no respite from the role of mummy. I was overtired from a lack of sleep the previous night and had a few problems on my mind that had been getting me down and which I just couldn’t resolve. Like I say, nothing awful, just one of those days.
After the hour round trip to drop the big two off I needed to go to the shops to pick up a few things.
It’s never easy navigating a buggy down a narrow shop-lined street, and the shop I needed to go in had one of those doors that was tricky to open when you have a pushchair with you, and a bit of a step into it.
From out of nowhere, a young woman probably in her mid-20s, appeared. I hadn’t noticed her at all but she must have seen I was struggling. “Here, let me get the door for you,” she said, in a kind and cheery voice.
She held the door open with a big smile, helped me lift the buggy, waited until I was safely inside, and then headed off, saying it must be tricky getting around with a buggy. She wasn’t even going into the shop herself yet she went out of her way to help me, a complete stranger, when she could so easily have walked on by pretending not to notice.
I could feel the tears welling up in my eyes. I was grateful to be wearing my big sunglasses. She probably had no idea just how much her simple gesture meant, but suddenly I felt like someone was on my side. Suddenly it felt like someone cared. That might sound melodramatic and over the top. It might make me sound a little bit pathetic. But some days are hard and they really get you down.
I like to think I’m generally a kind person. I know I’m not perfect but I’m always the one to let another car pull out when all the other motorists drive on by. Or to let the person behind me in the supermarket queue go before me, if they’ve just got a handful of things and I’ve got a weekly shop in my trolley. I do these things out of politeness more than anything. But today I truly understood what a massive impact random acts of kindness can have. A simple gesture that takes but a moment can completely turn someone’s day around.
Don’t ever underestimate the impact your actions can have because you never know what’s going on in that person’s life, and how much a small gesture can mean.
Has a stranger ever made your day with a simple act of kindness? I’d love to hear about it. Do share the love in the comments section below, in the Cardiff Mummy Says Facebook page or by tweeting me on @cardiffmummy
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Lovely post. A young girl helped me and the buggy down some steps the other day and I felt the same. Kindness follows kindness. Hope you’re feeling better my lovely xxxx
Thanks Jess. Gosh, it’s amazing what a difference just a little bit of help can make. Buggys and steps are not a good combination, are they?! It’s made me even more determined to try to do good things, even if they seem small and insignificant, because you just never know what kind of a difference it might make to the person. x
I try to be kind. A mummy had parked on a bit of a slope at the supermarket and she was trying to get the baby out of the trolley and stop the trolley from rolling away. I just held the trolley, until she was sorted. Big smile for me. I hope I cheered up her day a little too.
I remember when my little bears were really small and I was leaving a supermarket when an elderly lady stopped me and shoved something into my hand and quickly turned away from me. She obviously didn’t want a fuss. I looked down and saw it was a £10.00 note. I’m choosing to believe I didn’t look scruffy enough for it be a pity offering but simply a random act of kindness! Great post, Thanks for reminding me that sometimes nice things can happen for no reason 🙂
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What a lovely post, and such a small but kind act. It just takes the littlest thing to make someone’s day. And don’t worry, we all have those bad days.
Lovely post. You’re right we should never under estimate even the smallest of things. I think I’m a fairly good person but more often than not I’m so wrapped up in worrying what’s going on with Eva. I should look around more and help out x
Aw bless you. It just goes to show that the smallest and simplist thing can make a difference to someone x
How lovely. It’s often the simplest acts that can mean the most. I hope your’e having a better time now. x Thanks for linking up to the #BinkyLinky
Random acts of kindness are the best to give and to get. Lovely post, glad I found it on #binkylinky
What a lovely post it just makes you feel good when somebody just goes out of their way to be nice thanks for linking to the binkylinky
Yes, it might have been a really small thing but it honestly made such a difference to how I was feeling.
It’s so true how much little things can mean. The weird thing is when you do them for other people it’s just instinctive and you don’t really think about it having any sort of effect. Nice post.
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Wow you sound exactly like me 🙂 its sad that this isn’t just the norm and is classed as a RAOK but it’s so true. Olive trying to make peoples days better and I’m always trying to help people too. It makes you feel good seeing others happy and I wish the world was more like us and that lady. It can make a huge impact on those days xxx